This article is sequel to the popular Why women don’t really like nice guys? demystifying a phenomenon that is constantly observed by all men and yet still baffle most. Why women love jerks and assholes, what is the logic behind this, and what can we learn and use from that?
First, this singularity is especially prominent in circles of young and beautiful women and tends to fade with age and is to be less pronounces with woman of a lower sex-rank. Basically the more a woman is perceived as hot by men, the more she will potentially be attracted to assholes.
Simply because the more she’s hot, the more power she has to compete against other women to get the man she really wants!
Losing some sex-rank, because she gets older or fatter, she will be quickly discarded from the assholes “fuck-list” thus has no choice to opt for another sex-life strategy, which is usually something like finding a good provider and settle down or date less attractive men.
But keep in mind; she will keep the same mentality.
Now, even if she accuses men of being pigs and complain that she doesn’t understand why all her friends are attracted to assholes, being in total denial that she’s too, why the hell is that she’s fucking another asshole?
Well, here are 5 good reasons why:
Women want Alpha leaders
Actually women are wired to be attracted to the tribe leaders, the Alpha-males. Some attributes and sets of behaviours displayed by the alpha-male will trigger their “attraction instinct” for better gene transmutation and the survival of her descendant.
In nature, strength in general is a big factor for survival.
The thing is, most modern time assholes display characteristics that mimic those of an Alpha, thus effectively triggering this “attraction instinct”. The same way pickup-artists do it, but naturally.
On the other hand, a lot of real Alpha’s, having an extensive experience and understanding of women behaviour, will just go with an asshole attitude and by pure indolence simply because it’s the most efficient, cost/benefit, way to deal with the hot modern western women.
It is just a smarter system!
That’s why in some cases the difference between Alphas and Assholes gets fuzzy.
The Alpha is the leader; he will take all the decisions for the group and inspire others to follow him for a higher purpose like glory.
The Asshole is purely selfish; he will take all the decisions, because the only important thing is himself!
The Alpha doesn’t need to have only one monogamous relationship; he is the King. If he has genuine feeling for his fellow female followers, he is most likely to be openly polygamous or a serial monogamous.
The Asshole just wants to fuck a shit load of fresh pussy for his own needs, and toss them away when he gets bored of them, which makes him a polygamous or a serial monogamous.
One of the most common and strongest romantic or sexual fantasy that women have is to be taken, or hijacked, psychologically or even physically, by a strong, seductive and/or powerful man. In this fantasy the Alpha is so confident and dominant that she has no choice but to surrender to his will.
The Alpha, as the group leader, with his dominance, his high value, his capacity to demonstrate power, his experience with women, knows that he will not be rejected and can easily just go and take her.
The Asshole, who considers women as disposable sexual objects, is obviously convinced of his higher value, and since he doesn’t care at all about those sluts, he doesn’t care to be rejected either; exactly like he does with everything else: he just goes and takes her for his needs.
When it comes to their behaviour towards women, the differences between Alpha and Asshole are subtle enough to trigger the same reaction.
Scarcity increases value
Since the Asshole mimics many Alpha characteristic, he usually have a colorful sex-life as a base to build on. For that reason, and because he is a self-centred prick, he has no problem ditching a woman in the middle of a date to go grab a beer with the boys.
He knows another opportunity is around the corner, so he doesn’t feel the need to do stuff that please women in order to keep them around.
He just does what he wants to do. He will be late on a date or simply flake on her without even canceling in advanced because he is playing a videogame, fucking another woman or because is simply too lazy.
Anyway, he can just call her a little later in the evening when he feels the need to drain his balls. Why wasting time with this boring dating girl stuff anyway, right?
This unavailability of the Asshole contrasted with the total availability of the nice guys just increases his market value through the roof!
A good challenge is entertaining
Hot women who are used to get everything they want the easy way ever since they were born, from parents, teachers and 98% of men, are growing very confident, selfish, arrogant, superficial and quite frankly extremely bored by the usual guy who’s ready to get on his knees and promise her the world for a chance to prove himself.
At the opposite end, the Asshole provides her quite a challenge, his character is not really affected by her seducing power and he really doesn’t give a shit about her thus doesn’t have to put-up with her bullshit. Due to that alone, it is pretty difficult to get his attention.
In fact, the Asshole’s character is somewhat resembling hers on many points.
She is not able to resist the temptation to try taming him, to make a good man out of him, to make him his little puppet like she can do with most of the others. But this rarely happens with this kind of guy, who really only thinks about the next pussy, his car or his beer buddies which all make him very challenging thus entertaining and stimulating.
Pre-selected by other women
The preselection switch is so powerful that it’s actually unreal.
Since he had a baby, 4 years ago, my friend didn’t have any sex at home. His wife didn’t have any sexual desire at all. Some sort of postpartum sexual depression, if you wish. Well, recently he told the happy news to his wife that, his new boss, Sandra, was working to promote him and brings him in the management.
Well, since then, he has frequent crazy-hot sex with his wife! She’s literally jumping on him.
Just the fact to have one other women around that could potentially compete will multiply the attraction factor in a very effective way.
It is like putting some fuel on the fire.
Now, what happens when you are actually dating 2 or 3 girls in the same time that you are fucking another woman just before you go to your date, that you have recurrent adventure on the side with different mistresses, that you have many hot chicks around you because of the aforementioned reasons?
Well, women sense it and it creates a very powerful synergic effect that increases the attraction a thousand times over.
Life is about drama, right?
We all know how women love drama. When they’re not watching drama on TV, or listening to dramatic songs on the radio, we can be sure of one thing: they will be trying to create drama in life.
A thing that is very annoying for most men is only the natural by-product of the Asshole behaviour.
If he’s not cheating on her, he’s losing the family’s savings at the casino or beating her up!
One thing is for sure: with an Asshole, things will turn into drama. The best part is, with him, she will be the real victim for a change. Justifying her acts, the right to complain and whine about it, creates even more drama.
A woman’s dream that can finally come true!
Don’t hate the player!
What to do with that situation if you’re not a natural Asshole?
Well, first, if you are restraining yourself or have been conditioned to be a nice guy, just let yourself go and become the Asshole you always wanted to be.
As you just read, as far as women are concerned, no need to be nice. Being an Asshole is a great advantage! And the downsides are minimal really…
If you don’t like this because it’s really not you, then reproduce their modus operandi your own way!
The Asshole behaviour mimics those of the Alpha’s thus triggering the female “attraction instinct”.
Powerful behaviours such as;
- Leadership or selfishness
- Pre-selected by other women **
- Challenging to satisfy
- Low availability and high demand
… or simply the illusion of them will cause the same effects. You can mimic the Alpha or the Asshole or a mix of both and become a real ladies’ man.
Here is an example of some very easy things you can do that will produce a great effect without any effort:
- If you’re dating, always double book your date, with another girl or a friend. Just when you would finally go to meet your partner, make a choice: do you prefer to go with her or just cancel the whole thing? If you have the possibility, squeeze them both into your schedule; it’s even better. Once in a while make sure you cancel the girl and go with friends instead. (Pre-selection, low availability / high demand, selfishness)
- If you’re married, when you talk about work, always include stories, real or not, about the new young assistant chick or your new hot female manager. If possible, commute with a hot chick, available or not, and just make her your friend. (Pre-selection, mystery, possible drama ahead)
Becoming a real Alpha is of course the ultimate solution when it comes to women, but if you’re not there yet, well … fake it until you make it!
By the way, if your interested to know more about asshole psychology and why it dose work wonder with women read The Complete A**hole’s Guide to Handling Chicks. Very funny and entertaining dating book! Great value!
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