You are probably capable of doing 10 times more than what you think you can do, which is probably 10 times more than what you actually do. You are without doubt infinitely superior and paradoxically and considerably simpler than what you think you are. But regrettably, you choose to be someone else.
You are not a republican, a geek, a punk, an artist, a CEO, a Porch owner, an accountant, a student or someone with a superior intellect. Those ways of identifying yourself, those “labels”, are nothing more than boxes in which in you hide in order to be accepted or get noticed by people around you.
It’s just a coward way to fit in.
The box you have put yourself in is not only limiting you with its walls but also create the illusion of safety that ends up being nothing more but your greatest weakness.
Your total lack of ability to recognise what you’re really made of, and who you really are, is a big crosshair that you inadvertently paint on your back!
You want to hurt someone really bad? It’s easy. You just have to find out how they define themselves on Twitter, Facebook or LinkedIn, and then strike there!
Let’s say you believe you are a great “project manager” and “husband” with a “60k savings account” who requires his “8 hours of sleep” to perform.
That’s who you are, or, how you define yourself.
Well, one day your boss fires you, and the reason he gives you is that everybody in the company thinks you’re really incompetent at your job, which in turn creates a big drama at home that further leads your wife to divorce you thus leading to her taking half of your earnings from your savings account. To put the cherry on the top of the cake, the stress and anxiety caused by the situation prevents you to have more than 4 hours of real sleep at night since all of that has started!
This single event has destroyed you!
You have lost everything, your fragile identity is collapsing, and you are breaking apart. You experience pain and fear that you’re not normally used to. You don’t know what to do, you are now freaking out!
Some even think about committing suicide after such an incident, but others like us, are enlightened by the discovery of what has been hiding inside that box which is now burning away!
Welcome to ground zero and meet yourself.
The secret of life is to “die before you die” and find that there is no death.- Eckhart Tolle
Do the uncomfortable
To strengthen your mind, forget about what your “label-personality” says you can or cannot do. Transcend your limit, become shapeless and do things you always thought you couldn’t do.
- Register and run the 20km, 26 obstacles Spartan race.
- Lean to speak an operational Mandarin in 6 month.
- Create a business that brings you 10K$ a week.
- Take apart, and reassemble a gasoline engine by yourself.
- Approach and pick up the hottest girl in the club.
- Take a year to backpack travel around the world.
The reason why some guys engage in hazardous activities, such as MMA fighting, mountain climbing, free fall parachuting or even enrolling in the infantry, is because by taking those actions they physically go out of their comfort zone and push their limits, providing themselves hard evidence of what they are really made of which, in turn, frees them from irrational fears and the liability of their weak personality.
A good and easy way to do this daily is to aim at things you have always procrastinated about because they weren’t your “kind of thing.” This also applies to the things that you fear. Just go ahead and do them with elegance.
The majority of fears are actually absurd and by confronting them you will free yourself and open the door to an entire new world of possibilities.
The funny thing is that 80% of people are competing one another on a day-to-day basis doing the “normal / realistic” endeavour. In essence, these endeavours are often more difficult to accomplish than the “crazy / unrealistic” ones, simply because there is no competition.
Could you work online, from home, only 30 hours a week, and earn more than your current salary provides you?
Is it that realistic or just a pipe dream?
Many are actually doing it all around the world, why not you?
Do today what others won’t, and tomorrow you will be able to do what others can’t.
Going out of your comfort zone is what is going to expend your mind, and frankly, if one man have already done that, you can do it too!
Crossing that threshold every day will bring you to an entirely new level pretty quickly!
Face your fear and pain
Pain is weakness leaving the body, it is a great metaphor. Most guys fail to challenge their fears, and that’s totally normal given the level of comfort they are used to in a modern society. But this is a big mistake!
You will find your keys to success when you thrive to succeed or fail one of those painful experiments.
The first step is to take the challenge, then face your fear and embrace the pain without whining. The temporary pain you feel while doing something out of your comfort zone will manifest itself in your strength, pride and confidence.
I took a 5-minute ice cold shower first thing this morning. Wow, this was so incredibly uncomfortable! What an ugly and painful way to start a day! The water was so cold; I had trouble to breath properly.
But just only a few seconds of pain later, once it was done, I felt an incredible feeling of well-being! I was 100% awake, felt fully alive, sharp as a razor blade and ready to kick some ass.
Was it worth it? Yes 100%, because the reward prominently worth the temporary pain.
A short while ago, I went camping with a friend in the middle of the wild, deep and mostly unexplored Canadian forest. It was a beautiful virgin place, 2 o’clock in the morning. We were chilling out, drinking beer, and we kind of got surrounded by a pack of wolves. Being so over-confident, we didn’t even have a pocket knife, and we were quickly running out of firewood.
To make a long story short, we ended up running 12km in the middle of the night in total darkness to get back to our Jeep.
What did I learn from that awesome camping trip?
- First, I can actually run 12km in the forest, at night, even if I’m super tiered after a full day of hiking.
- Second, with an adrenaline boost I can actually see very well in the dark, have ninja like abilities and a powerful survival instinct; and all that while half-drunk.
- Third, I need to bring my fucking katana sword with me next time!
Yes, there were also side effects to this experience because since then, I’m kind of bored to death doing regular camping on a safe site with “normal” people. I am totally indifferent listening to those self-proclaiming “camping experts” declaring their impeccable skills of how to start a fire properly … with the help of a lighter and some gasoline of course.
Once you learn to appreciate the feeling of this transformative pain, your fear of it will transform into focus and determination, which will put you on the path of your next evolution.
All those daily uncomfortable experiences and short sequels of pain propels your mind in an upward spiral, which in turn provides you the ability to do what others can’t and supply you with amazing stories about what you can do with your life.
Only if you dare can you really meet yourself for the first time and be ready for the surprise: you might be better than you think you are.
You’re welcome to share one of those simple but life changing experiences in the comment box below.
Until next time…