Most guys who enter in a long-term relationship have the desire to make that relationship a success. If we are about to “settle down”, buy a house, have kids, and have sex to the same women forever, it is to build a strong family, a safe and agreeable environment where we can enjoy fully our lives and eventually leave a legacy.
The nice guy supposes that by being nice, his partner, who is supposed to play for the same team, will in turn do the same. Following this logical assumption, ideally, they should be able to thrive and build something great. It is a wonderful plan in itself, and it seems totally logical!
But if you follow the standards of our feminist brain-washed society that determines what is right and wrong for you, then you can be sure that it will eventually lead this venture on a painful road that will crush your spirit and eventually end in total failure.
Women are crazy, men are stupid. And the main reason women are crazy is that men are stupid.― George Carlin
The long term relationship trap
The most common long term relationship trap that guys tend to fall into that is the direct result of the gradual reduction of their Alpha male traits and dominant attitudes that also directly cause a surge in the beta male behaviour to unconsciously reduce his state into a submissive one.
Of course, you just want to do the right thing, and everything that the society tells you is basically about always being a good husband or being the boy-friend who is always being a nice, understanding, helpful and obedient dog. A paradigm that women will take advantage of as soon as she feels that you have been tied to her.
One of the fundamental problems with that is by being endlessly nice with her you are displaying lower sex-rank while subtly transferring more and more power to her in the relationship.
This situation will rapidly decrease her attraction to you and put you in some sort of “chase mode” in which you will try to do more and more and be nicer and nicer in order to earn your value back, while she can allow herself to act like a bitch without being afraid of any real consequence.
Read: Boost your sex-rank, for better relationship with women for better understanding of the notion of sex-rank.
It quickly becomes a vicious circle, in which the more you become a beta male figure, the more she will ask you to do ludicrous tasks, complain about everything, and lose attraction to you, which can easily make you even more beta by trying to fix the situation so that you could please her even more.
The more ground she is given to take control in the relationship thru this paradigm shift, the more your relationship is likely to end up in flames.
The first things you will know after only a couple of years is that she is not in love with you anymore, which most of the time means that she is fucking someone else on the side.
A balance is required… you must keep some of your original alpha male traits in reserve! There will always be people who are going to be attracted to her no matter what, and thus you must always keep a higher sex-rank than her so you can stay in control, otherwise your relationship will die from a slow and agonising death!
Shit-test and challenge
Like children, women will always challenge your leadership and control capacity, test your boundaries and sex-rank on a daily basis. Those annoying behaviours are commonly called “shit-test” or “congruence test”. The purpose of those shit-tests is to determine, right on the spot, at this very moment, what your current social status and sex-rank are, and whether or not you’re in control of the situation.
Women are attracted to men with higher sex-rank who are in charge and are very obsessed and anxious about it. They can do those shit-tests each day and if you fail them, they will do it again and again to see what’s going on. The same way a stock market investor will start to be obsessed about a stock that is sinking down looking at the graph every hour, or how much more often you look at the fuel gage of your car when you have less than 1/8 of fuel in the tank.
The thing is, those tests can become fucking annoying or just plainly unacceptable in some case, and they can easily ruin your day and your relationship. If you don’t deal with them appropriately, they will become worse and more frequent.
Those tests can look like:
- Crying in order to manipulate you into giving her what she wants.
- Plainly insulting you.
- Requesting regular small favour on things she could have done herself easily.
- Blaming you about random situations that displease her.
- Using sexuality to manipulate you into giving her what she wants.
- Revealing distorted personal facts in front of other peoples, letting appear that you don’t take good care of her.
- Ridiculous request like building an extension to the house, buying her a car or a Louis Viton purse.
- Subtly blackmailing you.
Basically, any manipulative attempt in order to extract resources, control or gain power over you can be a shit-test, and you must deal with them appropriately or if left unattended, those will take very unpleasant turns soon enough.
The solution is retaliation
How to react to shit-test? Basically, you can, banish her from your plan of existence for a while, laugh loudly at her or launch a counter attack. You cannot simply accept those behaviours; you have to say no. If you let it slide, or in worst case scenario, you give her what she wants, you’re failing the test, and it is going to stimulate her to test you even more.
A shit-test is a test of character!
Can you handle her?
If the answer is no, you just lost the battle, and you will pay the price.
The price will be your sex life, your sanity and everything you have built up to that point in your relationship. This can easily turn into a freaking nightmare if you’re married, have a house or even some kids!
You must act the same way that nations, tribes, gangs, families and men have acted everywhere in the world since the beginning of humanity.
It is like when someone attacks you, disrespects you, attempts to manipulate you or takes any kind of offensive moves against you.
You must retaliate!
Don’t tell me; But I love her!!!! Sniff… I cannot do that, she is my wife!
It’s exactly like parents who love their kids more than anything else; they discipline, punish and send them to school for their own good!
It must be done! It’s a necessary evil!
The strategy is simple.
- You are good to her as long as she is good to you.
- When she crosses the line with her shit-tests you must be bad to her in return. She must understand that there will be unpleasant consequences to any shit-tests!
- You will be bad until she becomes good to you again. Of course, you can boot strap the resolution process, because some of them are just nuts and will want to fight forever.
- Once the episode is over, you will forgive her and move on. Until next time.
At no time she can disrespect you, manipulate you, and try to control you or do any kind of shit-test without paying the price!
Just to be clear here, I didn’t say react like a drama queen and start yelling and screaming! Stay strong and in control and enforce the proper consequences!
This may seems risky or even crazy for some guys who are convinced that the “nice guy” strategy is the only acceptable one, and it is true that it can surely produce some heat at first, especially if she is running the show and shit-testing you every day, but it will greatly improve most aspects of your life if you are willing to flip the switch.
The results should be visible in the bedroom quickly enough. If not you might want to start exploring the possibility that she might have a secret boyfriend.
If it’s the case, retaliate!
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