Before you go on and explore this article in detail, please read my “How to be dominant with women, Part 1” , “How to be dominant with women Part 2” and “How to be dominant with women, Part 3 ” articles first.
Both roles must be played
Of course, in a relationship both members have to play their role in order to make it work. It will be difficult for a man to develop and establish his dominance and make the relationship work if his role is constantly challenged by a woman who is also a partner in the dominant role. If you want to have a thriving relationship in which you are “the man,” fulfilling the leadership/dominant role. At one point the woman must be “the woman” in the relationship, and take over her follower/submissive role and even the responsibilities that come with it.
We can also see that this dynamic applies to same-sex relationships, too. It is not so much about your gender but about those essential natural roles.
If there is constant power struggle in your couple about this, especially in this weird “liberal” feminist brainwashed society, it is both of your responsibilities, at one point or another, to initiate a conversation in order to establish the roles and the rules of engagement about how it will work in your relationship.
Does she want her husband to be a dominant alpha leader or a submissive beta follower?
If she wants to have the alpha leader, it means that she needs to take the beta follower role and engage herself to do it properly.
Again, this is not about degrading the woman!
It’s only about creating and respecting a chain of command in order to make things work, allowing everybody to be fulfilled and have a great life.
This is basic and she must understand that!
You women reading this post!
Understand, it’s only a question of playing a role and that your role in life always depends on the context. When you’re at work, if you’re a manager, you have the dominant role towards your employees, but only one minute later in a meeting or other professional context with your director, you must alter your relationship patterns to be in the submissive role!
Now, when you are back home, you have to take the submissive role towards your husband and your parents and a dominant role toward your children. This is only about knowing what role you need to take in which context in order to make things work for you and your family.
It has nothing to do with having equal rights!
You complain and whine that your man is not alpha or dominant? Well, in return, what about your attitudes and behaviours? Are you a good follower? Do you respect the chain of command?
Because if not, it is only normal that this relationship turns into chaos, drama or dissatisfaction and frustration for both of you!
The modern feminists try to enforce this “girl power” role onto you that runs on double standards that drive women to take what they want from both roles while dumping everything that they don’t like in their male partners.
Here ya go buddy, you can take the scraps! Now we are equal!
Seriously, is that what you call equality? Personally, I find it, egocentric, immature and dysfunctional, but that’s just me …. and millions of other men… and even women.
If your man is the leader, on your side, provide him clear information on what your needs are and clear feedback on his previous conduct, and most importantly, respect the chain of command.
Bottom line: one of you has to be the leader and if it’s him, it means that it’s not you.
If your man doesn’t know about all of this, ask him to read these articles, have a good discussion about it with him, and give him a chance to learn and experiment it with you.
Dominant vs. domineering
Let’s get back to men stuff. One problem a lot of guys learning to be dominant with women have is that they confuse being dominant with being domineering. There is a subtle but important difference here.
The way I see it is that being a good dominant with women take foundation in that love you have for women and is not based in selfishness or in a bully type of mindset. Deep down it’s not about arrogance and pushing her around to make her see it your way. Yes, this can be done as a “game” for excitement and attraction purposes, but you need to keep in mind from where it really comes from.
It works the exact same way like when a good father acts as a dominant figure in front of his children in order to protect and prepare them for life. He doesn’t act in an egoistic way for the sake of asserting his own interests, but in fact he comes with genuine love for his children and the desire to do what is necessary to protect them.
It’s not about asserting your will on her in an arrogant way! You don’t have to be oppressive, bossy, dictatorial to rule the house with an iron fist, and your actions should not result in emotional abuse. Your goal is not to repress her, but in fact to free her and allow her to grow sanely.
Being sheltered under the bubble of your dominance should give her the possibility to live her submissive female instincts without being hurt or ashamed.
- To allow her to be free to express her true feminine nature while everything else is all good and under your control.
- To allow her to be free to reveal to you her deepest sexual fantasies and taboos because she feels safe, loved and protected by your strength and dominance.
- To allow her to know that when you’re disciplining her, it is in her own interest and is done with the intent of allowing her to grow into a better person while also protecting the family from going sideways.
A good dominant man ultimately wants that his woman experience satisfaction, pleasure and the freedom of being his submissive. But again, on the “presentation layer”, you can be cocky or even rough with her if she so desires it as long as she can feel that it’s all based on love and control.
There is no superior role, dominant or submissive, all roles are essential and have their inconvenience and advantages. In most cases, it is more natural for men to be the dominant and for women to be the submissive; that is why it is often said that being dominant will attract and turn on women.
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