Find out what makes her tick.
Knowledge is fuel for power. By being the dominant half, you understand the importance of power in one form or another. When you are in charge of guiding her through the correct path, understanding her primal needs is of high importance and not as easy as it might first seem.
First, you have to understand that women, especially nowadays, have a lot of reasons to be dishonest about their true desires and needs. Society dictates mainstream social rules about what is and isn’t acceptable, and it has been going on ever since the explosion of feminism. Basically, a lot of desires and primal impulses that women possess have been shamed by such and similar ideologies.
Being a dominant man is basically rooting yourself into your core masculinity. But that’s not all as in a relationship you also need to help her release her own repressed femininity.
For example, a female commenter stated in “Part 2” that she needed her husband to be a little on the offensive by spanking her when she misbehaved and that it was not at all understood by her as an abuse but that it, in fact, made her feel safe and protected.
But how can most women communicate a need like this today without being ashamed?
It’s against all mainstream conventional wisdom. It’s against everything that society teaches you about what women should be and need. She will just look insane and ready to be locked up!
Yet, she needs it. It’s important for her; it’s a primal need coming from deep down inside: it’s encoded in her DNA much like the color of her hair.
This is one of the many reason why and where you need to be fully trustworthy as the dominant male figure in her life. You need her to trust you enough so that she can feel free to leave you sufficient clues about what she truly wants but cannot openly express.
Be 100% trustworthy, and only then be a good listener! Listen to her when she is talking to you, ask questions, and do not ever judge.
I won’t lie to you; this will feel more like playing detective work than an honest conversation with some of your best buddies. Why? Simply because that’s how it really is with most women.
You need to find out what makes her tick, and the more you know, the more you will be able to manipulate and assert your powerful role in your relationship.
That’s also why a collective knowledge about general female psychology and secret sexual fantasies is important.
But, again, it is so politically incorrect to tell the facts about women’s true nature in our feminist society these days that this could also end up being quite a difficult quest.
Another thing to consider is that women don’t always know what they want or how much is too much. At least less than men, anyway.
That’s why I often say that women are full of shit and under no circumstance should you listen to their advice when it comes to relationships.
First, they cannot tell the truth because it’s not politically correct enough, and second, in many cases, they simply don’t know what they want. Plus, in comparison to men, keep in mind that women are the true masters of deception.
But what their conscientious mind doesn’t know their body knows, because it’s all in her genes. You just need to take a closer look at her behaviour.
It’s all encoded, but she will leave clues. Ask question, her answer will contain clues. Don’t take it word for word. You have to decrypt the message first.
Experiment: Play a little game with her, push it a little bit further each time, and you will see that her reaction will hold clues.
Create the frame for her.
Knowing what makes her tick is of great importance because as the dominant one it’s your job to create that frame.
Maintaining frame or having a strong frame are notions that are often discussed in the Pick Up Artist community. The reason is that it’s a very powerful concept when it comes to dating women.
As the dominant person, you are the one who frames the situation and the situation can only be framed optimally when you know what makes her tick.
Think about it this way: you’re a movie director and the studio gives you these 2 rules to work with: the main actor will be Arnold Schwarzenegger, and you must make a great movie.
Well, choosing to make a romance or some sort of chick flick would be less than optimal. You will probably fail at making a great movie. I don’t have to tell you that it’s simply not Arnold’s speciality. If you have to work with Arnold, you better go with Action, right?
Creating the frame is like writing the story in which she is playing. You don’t control everything that happens in life, but you control how you perceive it, react to it, and how you will use those events to shape the story of your life.
There is always a good side to any event, in fact, there are multitudes of angles to every situation, and thus you need to choose the appropriate angle and make it fit into your frame.
Yes, she will test the frame!
Yes, she will try to break it!
You must hold it, because if it’s a good and strong frame, she will just comply and enjoy.
If it’ sucks, or if it’s weak, she will shit-test you until she gradually manages to break it apart.
Ultimately, you create this frame for her so she can fulfill her own basic and forbidden needs, all that under your protection and authority. This frame becomes a safe place where she can express her true core personality by also growing and thriving in the process. She may end up being overly encouraged to becoming the women she deeply wants to be.
Well, she will at least have this protection and freedom at home when she is with you in her own intimate environment.
This is where it all comes to full closure; this is where the power of the submissive lies.
Because looking at it from a different angle, you can easily see that, in fact, the dominant is at the service of the submissive.
Yes, if you love her, you use your dominance to serve her and in exchange she will use her submission to serve you. It’s a power exchange.
It’s a win-win.
You make her feel good at being a woman and in turn she makes you feel good at being a man.
If you believe that a man who is dominant with a woman is oppressing her in any way, you are missing the point entirely. Maybe that’s only what daddy government want you to believe so he can take this important role from you. Acting by love or by hate, being good or bad, has absolutely nothing to do with being dominant or submissive.
Part tree ends here guys; read part 4, for more. Stay tuned!
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