Before you go and explore this article in detail, please read: “How to be dominant with your woman in bed, Part 1 first.
Disclaimer: this post has been written in the context of consent sexual relationship with your loved one or partner and assumes that she enjoy and desire a dominant man.
Psychological dominance can be achieved with only body language without necessary saying a word but you can also command her to do things, it depends on your personality or how you feel at the moment.
Many women are really turned on when you command them to do things for your own that pleasure.
In that case, why not, just tell her what you want her to do!
Command her to change position and then to perform certain acts. If she not used to it, start with the simple things and then gradually move up to more elaborate requests.
When you talk to her, use a possessive language that implies that she is yours. You have passed the point that you only desired her, now you have her, she has already surrendered to you, she is now yours.
Make her feel it.
You can use dirty words or not, it does not really matter, it depends on your preference. Just make sure to make your requests in an assertive way.
Getting more physical, here is some ideas…
Keep in mind that the physical dominance main purpose is to put into effect and spice up, even more, the psychological aspect, it comes has a second layer over it.
Here are a few things that you can add to your repertoire that will increase your dominance while you have sex. By starting with those, you will understand how it feels to be dominant in bed and then has you progress in your development you will soon come out with your own original twist.
I suggest that in order to maximize your own pleasure and to build up higher intensity of sexual energy and tension you control yourself a little and take the time to properly enjoy the moment by escalating progressively from physically moderate to rougher.
I really like to start the whole thing by smelling her. Smelling her neck and her hair while having a discreet but firm hold on her. It’s a little bit like smelling your wine before tasting it. It’s a good starter and can be done pretty much everywhere even in a public place.
Moving her around
Also at that point, it’s good to increase the physical leading, moving her around, by holding her hand or her entire body at the shoulder level more assertively. You can also pull her or push her into a different direction. Again this can be done more subtly in public or more aggressively in private. It depends on the situation. For example, in private you can carry her in the room and throw her in the bed or just physically guide her in the sexual position you want her to be.
Spanking, biting and pinching her
Personally, I love spanking her ass, again, it can be done casually in public and more aggressively once you’re in the bed. I just can’t help myself, it became such a second nature to me that a couple of time I accidentally spank the wrong women, in public, while being distracted by something else. Without any negative consequence, fortunately…
In the same kind of idea, biting her neck, tits, ass, legs or wherever is very delicious. Careful to not leave abusive bite marks in visible areas, she might have to go to work the following day. Pinching her nipple adds, even more, spice to the thing.
The more you start doing things that produce pain, go gradually to assess the tolerance of your partner and determine if it produces de desired erotic stimulation with her. Don’t forget, is all about the psychological effect that it produce. When it comes to the pain you have to find the sweet spot.
Holding her against the wall
Holding her, squeezing her or fucking her against the wall is also quite effective as it removes her the possibility to back off. A kitchen counter or a table can be used in the same way.
Pulling her hair
Another thing that most men and women are turned on by is hair pulling or to be held firmly by the hair. With a good wide grip at the lower back of her head, she doesn’t have many choices to follow and surrender to your will which could be very erotic if not thrilling.
Holding her firmly by the neck while moving her around, locking her against the wall or while fucking her in about any position can be very exhilarating too. With time, as you better know the limits and desire of your partner, you can squeeze with more strength if she likes it. Probably more women than you think actually like being choked. Of course, proceed with caution with that one.
Face fucking her
Trusting in her mouth while she gives you a blowjob which comes down to fucking her mouth can be a very pleasurable and erotic way to bring the simple blowjob to a whole new level. Properly access her limits with that one too.
A lot of men and women really love to have rough sex. But the level of roughness doesn’t always need to be high and you can also be very dominant while being gentle. It depends on what you like and also of your partner. Being the dominant figure, you’re the responsible one. If your girlfriend is very delicate, sensitive and shy it is also your responsibility to be more gentle and to escalate more slowly. In that case, if you really want hardcore rough sex, you might have to consider another partner.
Hang cuffs, rope, whips, leather, BDSM gear, etc…
The use of those accessories, being part of a game or a play if you wish, are used in the context of scenarios discussed in advance with rules and a safe word in order to live fantasies, has a hobby or a lifestyle. But it is not necessarily the same thing than simply being dominant in bed and is not necessary at all.
It’s more like another thing that some people like to do on top of it.
Some can play being the master, without being dominant in the real life, others can invert the roles depending on how they feel, etc… This is not really what this post is about and it is not necessary to go that way to be dominant.
Again, I suggest you to read the How to be dominant with women series in order to really grasp what it is to be dominant with women in general and what your duties are as it will lay a good foundation to start with in order to be a great dominant in the bedroom.
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