Disclaimer: this post has been written in the context of consent sexual relationship with your loved one or partner and assumes that she enjoys and desire a dominant man.
To be a good dominant lover, in a sexual context, it really helps if you have a well-rounded dominant approach in your day-to-day life. Read the series How to be dominant with women to make sure you are on the right track for that purpose.
Women, in general, prefer to have sex with a man who is dominant in bed, that’s a fact, now if you have been conditioned to believe the opposite and want to know more about it, this is a good place to start.
First, know what you want to do.
Like in everything you do in life, the first step is to know where you are going. The dominant male in a relationship is the leader. The leader initiates the process and takes the desired direction. That’s why it makes sense to first be clear about what you want and where you’re going with this.
Take some time to fantasize about what you want to do with her. Yes, I am talking here about the actual sexual positions or any of the naughty scenarios you fantasize about.
Use that to build up your sexual energy before you engaged her. Once you are fully charged, use this energy to build up sexual tension between you and her.
Lets your sexual energy be expressed through your body language and how you look and talk to her.
Then make an assertive move and get physical.
Now, do what you want.
Let me clarify this simple idea because it is apparently controversial or misunderstood since each time I write something in the line of
- Focus on what YOU want and NOT on what SHE wants.
- Do not focus on HER orgasm, but on delighting her beautiful body the way it turns YOU on.
Women and manginas, then write me comments and messages, basically stating that:
“A real dominant man should always use his dominance in order to please a woman doing what she wants because otherwise she won’t have an orgasm and it is his responsibility to pleasure her.”
This is nonsense, simply put; you cannot be dominant by being submissive.
Doing want she wants is actually submitting your action to her will, which is obviously a submissive behavior.
You need to act like if you are her king and if you think this is being a jerk or a douche bag, it is probably because the feminist establishment has been brainwashing males to be more and more submissive for decades now by using shaming tactics discriminating against every masculine trait.
Fuck that shit!
You have the right the be a masculine man like you’re born to be. Fuck their social engineering bullshit; it obviously doesn’t profit you, only them and their agenda. Wake up! You are not yet legally obligated to be a sissy.
Now, it does not mean that you are only going to do things that will not please her or that she will not be able to experience an orgasm.
On the contrary… not having the control and being submitted to your desire is precisely what is going to fuel the sexual tension to a higher level, making her super horny, thus allowing her to have an orgasm more easily.
What is important to understand is that your desires and actions should NOT come from a “Seeking Approval From” mindset.
In another word, you are NOT doing it because:
- You want to impress her.
- You want her to stay with you.
- You want her to approve of your sexual skills.
If you are dominant, she is the one who has to “qualify” to you, not the other way around!
Why are you doing your best to please her and make sure she has an orgasm?
This is a very important question because it reveals the mindset from where all your actions are coming from.
This is where your dominance or submissiveness in bed is rooted.
Your honest answer to that question should always be: Because it turns ME on!
Among other things, it is very likely that making the girl burst out of pleasure, moaning loudly, having multiple orgasms and even squirt her juice all over the place is something that turns you on very much. If it is the case at that particular moment, coming from that dominant mindset, it is perfectly appropriate to take the required action to make it happened.
This tiny difference in the mindset, from where you are coming from, is one of the things that makes the difference between being dominant or submissive.
You need to be swift and assertive into ensuring you get want YOU want, with confidence and strength.
Psychological dominance rules
Sexual stimulation is way more psychological that physical. Male or female we both get sexually aroused in our mind first. That is actually why most women are much more excited when they have sex with a dominant partner. At the source, it is not about being physically pushed around but more along the line of surrendering herself to a higher power.
It is all about what is happening in her mind when you tap into those primal instincts of being seeded by the alpha male of the tribe. The triggering of her biological purpose achievement reward system.
Yes, that right! Just after surviving, being impregnated by the strongest, more dominant, bad-ass male in the area is her ultimate biological purpose. It is a primary directive encoded in her gene.
What is even more powerful than using your physical strength in order to have a rougher kind of sex with her is to be able to submit her without even having to use it, even without saying a single word if you want.
To make her feel your power and your strength over her in a way that she has no choice to surrender to you.
The way you physically position yourself and move on her, giving yourself the opportunity, that at any instant just by tightening some muscle, to physically submit her in a way that she would not be able to do anything to stop you, thus making her surrender to you without having to actually do it. This is very aphrodisiac.
You can hold her arms behind her back with just a slightly firm grip, without inflicting any sorts of pain but in a way that if she tries to get out of the grip you could just very easily squeeze her by adding a just little bit more strength, and she would be physically forced into submission.
It’s all about the psychological effect, the anticipation of what you have the power to potentially do.
You could also choose to let her escape your grip, knowing very well that she will not go very far. Like a cat playing with a mouse, letting her go just to have the pleasure to catch her again.
Basically playing with her, developing this dominant/submissive dynamic.
Certain things like following a good strength training program to develop a strong body and also basic knowledge of Brazilian Jiu-jitsu “BJJ” or Wrestling will give you a great edge and make things way more interesting for that matter.
Keep in mind, a powerful demonstration of power with a high level of sexual energy even done in a soft and gentle way can be as effective as a rough physical demonstration of dominance.
Part 1 ends here guys; Read Part 2 to get into the details. Stay tuned!
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