Integrity is probably the most underrated quality of all, and I’m talking about being honest with yourself (Inner Integrity). It is so powerful! The day I understood that principle and started to live by it, my mind leaped to another level of strength and existence. Before I dig into the why and how of all this, let me tell you what integrity is.
Integrity means being honest with yourself and others based on certain principles and values. What I want to focus on in this article is the inner part of integrity because of its dramatic impact on the structural strength of your mind. This inner integrity provides consistency and ensures the absence of corruption between the values and principles you live by as well as what you do, think and tell on a daily basis.
A robust foundation is essentials to grow a strong and powerful mind.
Integrity is clearly a robust support for a strong mind. It doesn’t matter what you believe in or what your reality paradigm is as long as you’re congruent and honest with yourself and others. If you lie and manipulate yourself, your subconscious mind will stop believing in you the same way you don’t believe in those who lie to you. This in itself is catastrophic …
What you state to yourself: This year I’m going to exercise regularly!
What you really do: Abandon after 3 weeks.
What you state to yourself: I’m going to eat healthy food from now on!
Then you convince yourself otherwise: Well eating pizza is kind of healthy; it includes vegetables, meat, dairy products and cereals! Moreover, eating cake only once in a while is not unhealthy!
Value and principle: I do not steal because it’s wrong.
What you really do: You use a lot of paper in the company’s printer at work for personal business.
These aforementioned examples of smaller failures in integrity seem harmless, but they are not because you are providing yourself with the proof that you cannot be trusted! If your own mind cannot trust, rely, respect, have faith in you and itself not even in the little details of everyday life, then how the hell can you even hope building something strong on the top of all that mess!?
This is critical!
As you make decisions and commit yourself to respect them, you immediately start building self-control, self-confidence, stamina and strength to take on more responsibilities and develop more skills. When you keep your word to yourself, and then to others, you become reliable which will greatly increase the speed and capacity of your self-development.
Never bullshit yourself because it is a toxic behaviour. The reason for that is because you cannot respect your own commitment and deeply inside you don’t even believe that you can respect them either. Why? Because you never fucking respected them in the first place! It’s a self-fulfilling prophesy waiting to happen.
If you’re not ready to fully commit to a physical conditioning program until you die, then don’t fucking commit! If you’re always late, don’t try to convince yourself that you’re a punctual guy! If you’re not ready to do something like a winner and finish it, just don’t start it! Simple as that!
Someone with no integrity will never achieve real strength and wisdom! It is simply because he will always struggle with self-control and self-confidence issues.
When you live with integrity, your mind is fully aligned and rooted in its core principles and a group of pre-set values. This is a solid base, a solid framework on which you can be efficient and strong-willed that will not fall apart when life is a bitch!
Inner integrity is the seed of many more virtues.
When you start taming integrity, it doesn’t take time before it starts to affect your personal life. A lot of good things will start to unfold from your decisions. People will start to respect you more simply because you respect yourself, and they can see you’re a man of your word. At that moment they can also see that you’re becoming more and more reliable, which makes people around you more trustful, which in turn would give a positive boost to your reputation as well. You become a man of honour, a person that others can count on and eventually follow when they’re lost.
I don’t know any real natural leader who doesn’t have integrity. You must understand that I’m not talking about our political leaders here.
Those interpersonal advantages will greatly boost your social game without backfiring, which will in return boost your power and confidence level!
I mention here the social game because having integrity doesn’t prevent you to have your own game. Often-times people perceive the concept of “social game” negatively and associate it with untruthfulness. This is a bad way to see it, and frankly, expecting people to treat you fairly because you’re honest and true is like expecting a wild tiger to not eat you because you’re a vegetarian. It’s not because you have integrity that you cannot keep your strategy a secret and use deception to win over your enemies. As long as you acknowledge that principle to yourself, and that is congruent with your values, there is not going to be a problem with that.
You can talk the talk, but can you walk the walk?
To have integrity, you will need the courage and humbleness to face the truth about yourself, which can be unpleasant and difficult at times. This time I do not say it would be easy, but the only place “Success” comes before “Work” is in the dictionary, right! No pain, no gain! It’s a must if you want to become a strong man! With integrity your senses of identity, control and direction will fire you up with both excitement and peace. You cannot go around this.
If you would like to explore this subject in a more profound way, to internalize this knowledge has a core value, I recommend you to read Integrity: The Courage to Meet the Demands of Reality by Dr Henry Cloud. This guy is a leadership consultant and his book is probably one of the best in the subject. This book can be used has a guide to help you to become a man of integrity, again this is a total must! Also available in audio!
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